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[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

both compromise

I think online dating is absolutely killing that part. When you have an "unlimited" buffet table in front of you why would you ever think you need to compromise at all?

It's one of the 2537251728 reasons I loath what online dating has become... You aren't searching for someone you're swiping for someone and there's always that next swipe that could be "the perfect one" so you pass up the people who have one or two minor insignificant things, hoping the next swipe will be 100% of what you want.

I've been ignored by people I could swear were my identical twin as far as personality and compatibility and I haven't the slightest idea why other than a bad picture on my end or something, hell maybe my initial message didn't read like it was written by Hemingway, I'll never know. All I know is I've read conversations about why people pass and some of the shit is absolutely insane...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I think that’s more of a problem with hookup apps. When one side of the party is just there to get laid, it doesn’t matter what the other party wants in most cases, the “relationship” is never going to take off.

Dating apps tend to be more focused on “who could you see yourself spending your life with”, which is pretty similar to how IRL dating used to be. Most people likely aren’t searching for perfect.