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How to explain cross-dressing to parents? (self.mtf)

submitted 7 months ago by cetvrti_magi to c/[email protected]

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I started cross-dressing while I'm alone at home and few minutes ago I was doing that. There was a dress I wanted try and I did it now (I love it) but when I finished for today it was pretty hard to take it off because it wasn't made for musculine body (first time having problem like that). I was scared that I won't able to take it off by the time someone returns, they would be shocked. At the end that didn't happen but now I want to come up with a way to explain everything to my parents if such scenario actually happens and I need some help with that (important note is that my parents are pretty religious, not extremists thou). Smartest idea would probably be to just stop cross-dressing but it gives me so much euphoria, can't really give up on that.

Only idea I have for now is just to explain everything, that I'm trans and what that means, but I'm not sure how to do that in a way they would understand. There is probably a better way to go about this, any recommendation or story from personal experience would be useful.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

IMO there's no need for an explaination, but I'm also not on good terms with my parents, so it depends on whether you fear about your safety (e.g. when you're a minor or (financially) dependent) or how well you can say no to things.

In general: You owe no one an explaination!

[–] cetvrti_magi 9 points 7 months ago

Not explaining anything would be worst thing to do with my parents, any kind of explanation would be safer.