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There's actually truth in it.
There is, just a little. ๐
For people that don't have context...I know farmers that irrigate (water) their beans. But a lot of smart farmers don't irrigate right away! They want the soybean plant to establish, to set up down roots in the soil (in search of water). They allow the plants to struggle. Then, when they feel the time is right, they say, "Alright, let them have it." And shower them with water as needed.
If this isn't done, the farmer risks creating a bunch of soybean plants that aren't firmly rooted in the soil.
It's similar to people in life; whether they realize it or not, they need struggle & adversity in order to fully develop properly. We can identify people that are soft & coddled, that don't know how to work. Now more than ever. They're ill-suited for life. Perhaps shielding them from every real pain, struggle, adversity seemed like a kindness, but in the end it tends to be a disservice.
As someone who upvotes reasonable policies that promote success of the individual, and of society at large (read: progressive), this is true, but the important part is that the greater the adversity, the less people who will make the cut.
Framed this way, the seemingly optimal outcome (in this example) can be found by: asking kids to solve tough, but interesting problems, while also having already let them know that if they want to take on something that's well outside their wheelhouse, there is a teacher available to help with the tricky parts if the parent isn't able to. Psychological safety, in other words.
Throwing kids or adults into deep water without at least the possibility of help means a lot of people won't even make the attempt, and those who drown become poignant examples of why trying something new is bad. It's a doubly damning result, both for the individual, and society.
Policies need to be considered systematically, in more than just cost/benefit methods, as there are a lot of knock-on effects to any decisions.
For example: in reading what sounded like a good idea earlier, what happens to people who still struggle or can't succeed? Case rested.
Agreed, and people aren't plants. Balance & moderation in all things. ๐๐ป