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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

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Most of us will have to face transphobia and bigotry. How have you learned to respond to this? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

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[–] Ekybio 8 points 5 months ago (2 children)

One approach that can work, if you can be confrontational: You counter their offensive with your own!

Often their vile behaviour stems from an underlying emotional damage, so all you have to do is to remind them of that damage. Make it personal. Make it hurt.

Here are some of my best lines I have used so far, best delivered in a dry tone that cements them as a fact. Leave no room for questions, because you are stating the obvious.

Assumption is the other person is a cis-het-male. There is also the danger or further escalation, See so beware!

Also in spoilers, because Im very mean and possible trigger-content!

I see why you are and stay single
No wonder women wont spend time with you
Why dont you put that in your dating-profile?
I see why she left you
At least Valentines Day is inexpensive for you
You parents must be proud of you
No wonder you sleep alone at night
You are lonely and it shows
At least you will never have to pay child support
Why should women like you? You dont even like yourself
Really? You are so weak
Im glad she left you
Your parents must be very proud of you
I see why the kids stopped talking to you
You are unlovable and its no ones fault but your own

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

I think this can also be used to good effect at times, even with someone who means well. These days, when someone asks me if I’ve had the surgery I straight up start asking intimate questions about their junk. The shock effect is enough to make them realise they were being a jerk asking someone they barely know about their genitals.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago

I've fantasized about having these types of one liners after a transphobic slur or comment!

The only one I could come up with in my head if someone said something generic would have been

"If you're going to be transphobic, at least be original"

Which I admit isn't good enough but also these are scenarios in my head where everything I say makes sense and gets the point across with 100% accuracy. 😅