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I'm tired of always needing to prove my inteligence (self.autism)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by Persen to c/autism

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Examples:

Yesterday I was at a health evaluation for a driver's license. Everything went well with my physical health, but at questioning, my autism was bought up. I was accused of needing help with learning in primary school (despite of my grades, that were usually B (I know, I'm lazy)) and now I need a psychological evaluation.

When I started high school, most professors infantalized me, but later stopped after I proved myself (ok, some didn't stop, like the slovene teacher and the sport teacher/coach).

When I meet someone new, they always think I am intelectually disabled, before proving otherwise...

Why is this happening?

Edit: It means a lot to talk to people who support me trough this (even if only on the internet). I took a psychological evaluation today. It included an iq test like form (easy, but didn't finish the whole paper), questionairs and some cordination tests (that in my opinion I was bad at). Just waiting to get the results. Hopefully I'll pass, but I can't really do anything if I don't, can just maybe try somewhere else in the EU (i think).

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[–] BackOnMyBS 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yes, thank you! If I can't joke about being autistic with someone, I don't become their friend. Thanks to therapy, I have been really selective with who I allow in my life, and it has made a major welcomed difference in my quality of life and how I see myself.

That sucks about your friend's inflated ego, but I'm happy you see it so you can adjust accordingly.

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Well, congratulations on finding people, that respect you. About my friend, I can't really adjust to him only talking about being better than me and shaming me for having autism and "being lazy" (partially correct, but still).

[–] BackOnMyBS 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Thank you! The way I'm handling it now is that if I were in a similar situation like yours with your friend, I would just distance myself from them. If we were together and they started making me feel bad, I would just leave. I don't need to endure emotional distress because someone else is rude to me. I can just leave.

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yes, I did, but he is my neighbour, that lives practically under my window, so I can't fully remove him from my life.

[–] Globeparasite 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

that... doesn't sound like a friend. I'm sorry for you

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

He isn't a bad person, he just inflated his ego (probably just temporarly).