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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Pleasant_Set5859 on 2023-06-27 21:18:08+00:00.
I (30M) own my house, girlfriend (29F) rents an apartment with roommates.
We have been dating for 2 years, I suggested that she move in with me.
She refused, saying that she wants us to rent a new place together and I should rent out my house, because she doesn't want to live in my house. I told her I would let her change what she likes, but she says there is a difference between me letting her and her having the right to do it, which I think is ridiculous.
She asked if my parents or brother who live 4 hours away wanted to visit for a few weeks would she be able to veto that. I said of course not, it's my house and my family can visit me. She then proceeded to announce "this is exactly what I was talking about" like she proved some point. She has since not been replying to my texts.
AITA? It makes no sense for me to rent an apartment if I have my own house.
Yta for not trying to understand her perspective.
She's saying that if you're going to move in together, it should be a neutral space that is equally yours. Otherwise you're both boyfriend and landlord. And that is going to make things feel awkward for her.