Today kbin.social is blocking a huge list of domains just to get federation working again.
The reason for this temporally block is not to defederate, but rather to get the large backlog of 500k messenger queue processed again. Anyway, this does mean that kbin.social is federating again with other instances.
This is a temporary measure. Several users / developers are looking into how to better optimize the failed message queue, as we speak. Hopefully Ernest has eventually time to dive into solutions as well instead of workarounds, once his instance is migrated to Kubernets. See my preview thread: https://kbin.melroy.org/m/updates/t/4257/Kbin-federation-issues-and-infra-upgrade
List of the domains causing trouble:
lemmygrad.ml, eientei.org, vive.im, lemmy.ml, lemmynsfw.com, kbin.lol, lemmy.webgirand.eu, tuna.cat, posta.no, lemmy.atay.dev, sh.itjust.works, kbin.stuffie.club, kbin.dssc.io, bolha.social, dataterm.digital, kbindev.lerman-development.com, test.fedia.io, mer.thekittysays.icu, lemmy.stark-enterprise.net, kbin.rocks, kbin.cocopoops.com, kbin.lgbt, lemmy.deev.io, lemmy.lucaslower.com, lemmy.norbz.org, social.jrruethe.info, digitalgoblin.uk, pwzle.com, lemmy.friheter.com, federated.ninja, lemmy.shtuf.eu, u.fail, arathe.net, lemmy.click, thekittysays.icu, lemmy.ubergeek77.chat, lemmy.maatwo.com, faux.moe, eslemmy.es, seriously.iamincredibly.gay, test.dataharvest.social, programming.dev, kbin.knocknet.net, pawb.social, lucitt.social, longley.ws, kbin.dentora.social, atay.dev, lemmy.kozow.com, ck.altsoshl.com, pawoo.net, techy.news, lemmy.vergaberecht-kanzlei.de, lemmyonline.com, beehaw.org, pouet.chapril.org, kbin.pcft.eu, fl0w.cc, lemmy.sdf.org, lemmy.zip, feddit.dk, fedi.shadowtoot.world, lemmy.noogs.me, lemmy.kemomimi.fans, social.agnitum.co.uk, fediverse.boo, hive.atlanten.se, forkk.me, lemmy.ghostplanet.org, lemmy.mayes.io, lemmy.mats.ooo, lemmy.world, lemmy.sdfeu.org, lemmy.death916.xyz, geddit.social, masto.fediv.eu
But it does seem like for the largest instances the economics will favour centralisation. Decentralisation is typically expensive and inefficient as it often requires duplication of resources.
ActivityPub protocol seems to create big instances (like the big and populair mastodon, kbin and lemmy instances). I hope that spreading content across and finding information across all fediverse will improve over the coming years. And users should be understand the concept of decentralization much better. Users moving to other (smaller) instances will so bring the load down.
Bottom line, I hope AP will be further improved. And users will understand the power of decentralization better (in currently a very very centralized www).