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[–] BilboBargains 25 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

You can really mess yourself up trying to fit into a neurotypical world. The biggest problem is these people don't understand that just because you can't see something doesn't mean it's not there.

In the UK it is official healthcare policy to deny the existence of this problem for as long as possible. It is estimated that around 30% of the male prison population has ADHD.

One of my favourite pastimes is denying the existence of neurotypical behaviour, those unstated social rules like starting conversations with small talk, fuck that noise.

[–] fidodo 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

It's hard to know if something is there when it's invisible. That's why one of the first thing mental health charities tend to work on is awareness.

[–] BilboBargains 1 points 9 months ago

Kahneman referred to this cognitive bias as WYSIATI (What You See Is All There Is).

Step 1. Build a habitat in a vacuum for the UK healthcare minister.

Step 2. When they bang on the glass, appear momentarily interested in their plight.

Step 3. WYSIATI???

Step 4. Profit

[–] captainlezbian 6 points 9 months ago

Eye contact is a myth propagated by people trying to make our autistic friends and neighbors uncomfortable

[–] Harbinger01173430 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

People don't even start small talk in my office. We just laugh about memes, funny videos, games or do animal noises

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

I want that kind of job environment instead of constantly having to work with toxic men who constantly make sexist and homophobic jokes that make me super uncomfortable. 🥺

[–] Harbinger01173430 1 points 9 months ago

Eh, that's part of the culture in my country 😺