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I'm sorry for your loss.
it is a part of who you are though, how you handle loss.
Some people become destructive and never recover, and that is something you would ideally want to know about someone before a lifelong commitment.
When you make a lifelong commitment, you work through tragedy together. You don't go "I don't like the way you're handling this, so fuck you, I'm out". You lift each other up when you're down. You know, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, and all that jazz.
True, but also true that beforw you reach the lifelong commitment stage it is understandable to decide that you might not want to do it with someone who might not fit your expectations of mental stability from a partner.
It sucks but the truth is that if you dated someone for a few weeks, then they went through some tragedy and became unstable for months you might decide to breakup since that realtionship is more unstable then stable.
I do think once you reach the lifelong part, you should stick it out no matter what
I can agree with that. A relationship that enters tragedy too early probably isn't going to last.