ADHD memes

8524 readers

14 users here now

ADHD Memes

The lighter side of ADHD

Rules

No Party Pooping

Other ND communities

founded 2 years ago

MODERATORS

[email protected]

764

"Not reaching my potential" Fuck that line (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago by Stamets to c/[email protected]

93 comments fedilink hide all child comments

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[–] Stamets 19 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It's... torture. Its unfair. Honestly being told that by so many people is kind of why I gave up for such a long time. If I ever tried again at all. All that same 'reinforcement' and 'feedback' thrown this way and I just got so tired of hoping to not disappoint people that I gave up and just stopped trying. If I was going to disappoint them anyway I might as well do it without torturing myself in the process, right?

I'm glad you pushed through. It's difficult as hell and to do it on your own and keep pushing, especially here in Canada where mental health supports are severely lacking? I don't know you but I'm proud of you.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If I was going to disappoint them anyway I might as well do it without torturing myself in the process, right?

...but how do you keep yourself from torturing yourself for disappointing yourself?

[–] Taniwha420 3 points 10 months ago

Yeah, there's a part of me still believes I should be doing more. After my marriage failed it took a lot of feedback and journaling to accept that despite some human failings, I'm a good dad! My kids love being with me. I know them. I care for them, and I'm constantly getting better. (I ended up in subsidized housing, and there are a bunch of mums here that know what a shitty man looks like. They've done wonders for my self esteem.)

[–] Taniwha420 3 points 10 months ago

Absolutely. I definitely went through a decade after I went to university where fucking around was just a self-defense. You can't fail if you never really try. I smoked a tonne of pot. Somehow I still came out with a fairly respectable level of success. I think I've at some levels deliberately dated damaged women because having a dysfunctional relationship was 'easier' than letting someone down.