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I'm stuck researching things instead of actually doing anything (self.autism)
submitted 9 months ago by NationProtons to c/autism
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I want to learn how to cook properly and make simple recipes and don't spend too much time looking for what to make everyday.

So I start looking into some recipes I can make with the instant pot that we have at home.

But then I can't find certain ingredients in the local supermarket, or the ingredients are too expensive, so I start searching for other places to buy cheaper produce. Then I also start looking at what recipes don't take too much time to make, and read about meal prep and such, and find communities and websites. And then I look at local classes for learning how to cook, but they are way too expensive and I'm not sure whether they will be any good, etc...

And so I spend hours and hours researching all these things, but I never actually start cooking or go to the grocery store for ingredients.

I'm now feeling tired and have no energy to actually do any cooking anymore. And I just have no clue where to get started.

It seems like I'm stuck thinking of how to do something the best way possible, instead of actually trying something. But when I want to try something, I have no idea where to even start.

Anybody experience the same sometimes?

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[โ€“] Deestan 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Yes, the never-ending feeling that a small amount of more effort could make the result better. Recognize and counter it.

Perfect is the enemy of done

Mentally decide to do it imperfectly or even "badly". Pick the first recipe you see. Buy ingredients of any quality you find. Cook it with the utensils you have - whisk with a fork, knead badly by hand, etc.

Trust yourself that if you aren't pleased with the result, you will make adjustments for next time.

[โ€“] NationProtons 5 points 9 months ago

Thanks. I want to try this and accept it if things go wrong. I already realise that in the worst case, we go to a restaurant nearby or order pizza or something.

But somehow my brain wants me to do hours of effort to make it perfect. I should have some kind of training to accept mistakes and imperfect results.