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Trying to revive this community. What are your best advice for a health long-term relationships in your 30s? (discuss.tchncs.de)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've been in a relationship for a bit more than a year, everything doing quite well so far, looking forward to advice to how to make it last.

We are already planning to a have a "date night" every two weeks to get away from the daily routine.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Also don't take it personal! If they tell you something it's not against you but for the relationship. And try expressing stuff in sentences like "I feel that you don't do the dishes enough" instead of "you never do the dishes". Remember that they might percive the world differently and the real facts sound way more open to discussion if you just express your view instead of claiming absolutes!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago

They might also prioritize different things. This is often called "Love languages". Some might value gifts highly while others don't care much for them, others need quality time together without friends while some are perfectly fine spending most of your time together in a group setting,...

This might account for differences in perceived effort by both partners.