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What's a good and non patronising way to help my neighbour out (self.asklemmy)

submitted 10 months ago by Noedel to c/[email protected]

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My neighbour has a cat called Stevie. Stevie hangs out with us a lot and we look after him when my neighbour is away.

Yesterday we found Stevie very unwell in our garden. We took him to the neighbour and she immediately rushed him to the vet.

She mentioned the vet was 200 dollars which was a big unexpected expense for her. Her son's birthday is on Monday and she won't be able to do anything for his birthday now.

My wife and I are fortunate enough for 200 dollars to not be a lot of money for us and we want to help, but I'm unsure how.

One option would be that we leave her a little card with 100 dollars and write that we wanted to help because we care about Stevie too.

Another idea is we ask her to do some gardening for us (that's her job, and we're too busy to do it ourselves right now).

I don't want her to feel patronised or awkward about any of this... Happy to take insights.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If secrecy is the route op decides on, this would probably be the best bet. Ask the vet to just say it's part of their pro-bono work or something.

[–] SupraMario 1 points 10 months ago

Yep, I've paid a lot of neuter/spay bills this way, most people know because I'd rather they keep their animals and have them fixed, than end up with the rescue we run.