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Hey Folks!

I've been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here's a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there's a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don't know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don't tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

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[–] Today 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You're going to be asked to tip in many many other places. They usually flip an iPad at you that has 18%, 20%, and 25% buttons. There will also be a no tip button and it's totally fine to choose this when you're standing at a counter ordering food, picking up dry cleaning, at the vet (seriously?!), and a thousand other places. As others have said, it's only really required if someone took your order at your table, or if they provided a specific service for you - taxi, delivered an item to your hotel room, etc. Also, while everyone says 20%, i feel like 15% is still an ok tip for average service. In bars, i usually go with $1-2 per drink depending on the bar and service provided (beer vs cocktail). Room service usually has a 20% fee added and it's ok to ask if that goes to the hotel or server. Restaurants often add a tip automatically if you have a larger table or in touristy areas.

[–] razorwiregoatlick 2 points 1 year ago

It’s never required.