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My son is 27 and lives with me. We get along great. I like having him around. There is zero reason for him to pour money down the drain paying rent and utilities in a separate household. Not to mention the ecological impact of doubling the appliances and construction materials and everything else just so we can live apart. If he ever wants to get married it makes sense, but otherwise it seems really foolish the way our society expects us to live isolated from family in our own expensive boxes. I'd like to see the shaming of adults living with family just stop.
Edited to add: I acknowledge many people don't have good families and need to get away. I'm just saying it's silly to feel shame for doing something that is economically and socially beneficial just because society expects it
Is there any awkwardness with him bringing dates home?
I'd feel pretty weird if my daughter did that, but not for reasons you may think. It's because I've got a small two bedroom house, and I'd have to listen to those shenanigans all night.
As I'm single myself, I'd feel equally awkward imposing such an unsolicited auditory performance that she'd have to endure.
My house is big, but also he is asexual so that doesn't pose a problem. When his friends come over, I make myself scarce by retreating into my room. We are blessed to have space to ignore each other when we want.
It's trickier when one's house is small -- back in my younger days I remember having my boyfriend over to my parents' house. Luckily they were very welcoming and didn't try to make it awkward. I do think privacy for sex is a good reason to get a separate place.