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Mind sharing any piece of advice that you felt particularly useful? Thank you in advance. I’m so excited!

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[–] NABDad 6 points 11 months ago

Here's one for later:

Your job is too get your kids ready for life. Initially, you make all the decisions and control everything. As time goes on, you'll need to transition to letting them do things and letting them decide things. It's little at first, but it needs to increase.

Your kids should learn how to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. they'll need to do it for themselves some day, and far too many kids end up on their own with no idea how.

By the time they turn 18, your role as decision maker is OVER. From that point on you're available for solicited advice, and for rescue when they make a bad decision and need help.