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[–] CADmonkey 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

My wife has been using a planner for a few years and it really helped her.

[–] captainlezbian 3 points 11 months ago

It’s not that it never helps, it’s that it’s cliche advice that generally requires a level of functioning above where it’s typically recommended. It also is a crapshoot if it’ll work. I’ve had benefits from the planner before, but often when it’s been recommended I’ve been at a point where remembering to enter things into it or check it was basically out of the question and what I really needed was help getting any scheduling and habits built up. All this combines to the planner being a bit of a joke amongst women with adhd as an object of futile hope and promises that this time for sure we’ll remember to use it.

It’s the equivalent of buying a gym membership. The problem is you’re just not going to use it if you did it because of new years guilt