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What is the best selfhostable messaging service for family? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/selfhosted

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I want to selfhost a messaging service for my family. It should be secure and have voice calling option, ideally. Thank you.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just for a family and friends I'd go for xmpp. Matrix is still an enormous greavy piece of software, hard to self host if you don't want to pay for a gigantic server just for it. Also the UI is more like gamer/company chat (discord, slack...), what may not be what your family expect, coming from whatsapp, telegram, or plain sms. In the contrary xmpp is very light and nowadays a lot of tutorial exists on how to configure it, even with voice/video. Plus mobile apps like conversation match the habbits of other messengers.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is outdated info. Matrix doesn't need lots of resources these days. "for instance Synapse uses 5-10x less RAM than it used to (my personal federated server is only using 145MB of RAM atm!" - https://matrix.org/blog/2022/08/15/the-matrix-summer-special-2022/#making-it-fast

Host it for free https://paul.totterman.name/posts/free-clouds/ & https://paul.totterman.name/posts/matrix-server-guide/

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

How's bandwidth? I was thinking of possibly hosting one but read its pretty killer there too. I unfortunately only got 20 Mbps upload.