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Welcome to femcel memes. A place where anybody can post memes that fit the vibe.
Warning: We have a tendency to post things that may at times come from a self-deprecating perspective or things that are funny coming from another queer person. This space will always be a safe place for transfems, non-binary people, people with a feminine gender expression (GNC or otherwise) or anybody else in the LGBT Community to come together and share about our experiences but we truly feel that laughing about the sometimes silly and embarrassing parts the queer experience can help bring us together. We never mean offense or harm in anything posted but rather they are satirical takes coming from queer people.
A note about 'Egging': Our community is mostly made up of transfem individuals, and as such most memes posted will be posted with the intention of having a transfem perspective. However, regardless of gender identity, all feminine presenting individuals are welcome here. Whether that means you're NB, GNC, transmasc, or any other identity, you are welcome here. It is not our intention or goal to invalidate these identities. If something makes you uncomfortable, please feel free to report the post and I will address your concerns on an individual level. For more information regarding the problems with 'Egg-culture', please see Here.
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i get what youre saying, and agree with everything here, but i think its important to remember that i am shitposting in a subreddit consisting of mostly transfem people who have a very self deprecating sense of humor.
this wasnt posted with the intent of harming gnc people or femboys, its to get a chuckle out of former eggs who went through this like i did, to be taken at face value and moved past
Yeah I know you didn't mean any harm. Initially I was not entirely aware of that fact as the community has a femboy icon, I assumed it was a mixed community of femboys and transfem due to that fact (maybe it used to be at one point). But I think that makes the point all the more important as a large majority of egging is unintentional as a form of self-validation, in many cases it's not very harmful on its own but as a whole it can perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes and indirectly lead to the other kind of egging which is directly harmful (i.e. "Oh hon you dress like a girl and act like a girl, stop being in denial and accept that you are trans"). Which is what commonly happens in r/egg_irl (the Reddit one, not the one here at [email protected], the one here doesn't seem to do it as much).
Point being self deprecating humor is fine, but it's also important to consider how it affects others, especially when it comes to things like egging which aren't as widely recognized as issues as they should be (a person who is egged is usually likely to get egged more, when they seek help and support from others as opposed to being affirmed in their identity i.e. "Well it is true that you don't act or dress like a boy, maybe they have a point [Name redacted]").
Again none of this is specifically directed at you, I only seek to spread the message so people like us can be less invalidated, especially in queer spaces.