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How to handle "you're too sensitive" and other similar remarks? (self.autism)
submitted 1 year ago by BackOnMyBS to c/autism
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I'm learning that being told "you're too sensitive" and other such remarks is considered gaslighting. However, as autistic individuals, we are known for being highly sensitive, both with perceptions and emotions. So, I find myself wondering if perhaps I need to consider that I am more sensitive than the general population and accommodate what I see as their insensitivity, dismissiveness, and blame-shifting.

How do you handle being told "you're too sensitive"?

What do you think would be a healthy response?

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[–] Perroboc 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not autistic, but I’m an uncle of an autistic 5 y/o kid, and I constantly ask his parents what’s the best way to act and react around him, and I’m just glad I do that as that gets me closer to my nephew 🙂

I think you should be telling people what the autistic spectrum is, and that of course you will be too sensitive! Not everyone knows what it means, that it’s a spectrum.

[–] BackOnMyBS 1 points 1 year ago

Not autistic, but I’m an uncle of an autistic 5 y/o kid, and I constantly ask his parents what’s the best way to act and react around him, and I’m just glad I do that as that gets me closer to my nephew 🙂

Thank you for sharing that response! It tells me that there are considerate people and what I could be looking for in social settings: people that ask how to better accommodate my style. I could totally work on overlooking things to avoid being "too sensitive" but they could also try being more considerate. The fact that latter hasn't been brought up is telling of the situation.