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right but my point is if a group of friends want to go to a bar and some people don't smoke or like the smell of smoke then there is a problem, it's not like they can just opt not to smell smoke
Then don’t go to a weed bar, I guess. Laws are unlikely to allow weed and alcohol in the same place any time soon… though that already happens illegally at concerts and many bars I’ve been to. But people at the bars usually smoke outside. Colorado gov’t acts like all hell would break loose if people smoke and drink at the same time.
...that's why you would only go to a place like that if everyone is down. Having them for people that want to go is fine, no one is forced to go.
That sounds nice in theory, but in reality the result is usually that if the majority of a group smokes, the nonsmokers don't have much of a choice except for looking for new friends. That was a very common complaint when smoking in pubs and restaurants was still legal here.
Just because one person doesn't want to go to something doesn't mean they shouldn't exist. You're basically saying one person's opinion/choice outweighs an entire group. If those choices constantly put you at odds with the group it might be best to find a group that aligns with your values more. There's also nothing wrong with being friends with the people that want to go to things you don't like, just tag along when they do things you do like. You also don't have to have one set of friends, you can have multiple groups that like to do different things. I'm not pro banning things for the sake of others that can choose not to participate.
That line of arguing is exactly why it doesn't work. And in general I agree that banning things because someone else doesn't like it is wrong, getting rid of smoking wherever possible is better for everyone, including the smokers.
For what it's worth, pretty much everyone here in Austria agrees that the ban on smoking in indoor establishments was a good thing. It's just so much better to come home from a night out and not reek like smoke so badly that everything you touch will smell for days.
Well if low THC vapes and flower carts become common enough, we could see it become much more socially acceptable over time.
The problem is how to shift public perception of it as an anti-social behaviour towards a more acceptable vice that doesn't necessarily have to affect others good time
I don't know anyone who doesn't drink. I would be completely isolated from my friend group if i wasn't allowed to go to the pub with them and not drink alcohol. It would be unfair for them to force them now and again to have a dry night out to appease me.
Now if the place only sold edibles or had like a vape lounge area, that could work a bit better.
and drunk people can be annoying and it is hard to opt out of being around them at the bar
Well you would go to an alcohol bar. There's more than enough of those already.