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Many Queers Can’t Bring Themselves to Face the Emotion They’re Really Feeling Right Now. We Must. (slate.com)

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Not a feel good story, so beware. But I think there's a glimmer of hope here in contextualizing despair into survival, as upsetting as that may be.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I should probably learn how to do that formatting. It's easily understood. Do you mind linking me to where I could learn?

Prepend > to each line of text. Look up “Markdown”.

I have not really experienced that before. [...] I do not believe in evil. People are doing what they think is the best thing to do. Hurt people hurt people. If you treat hurt people with hostility, then you will get hostility in return. The online space is great for people to put their inner most thoughts. Everyone has random thoughts, and they can be destructive.

I believe that evil is when “what they think is the best thing to do” intentionally hurts others.

To me I don't see that much difference between people who call themselves LGBT and people who call themselves the catch all term. But to someone who wishes to exclude them I understand that frustration.

If you’ve been hurt by a slur, and someone’s trying to cheapen the slur by including non-homosexual, non-bisexual, non-transgender people into the community with it as the excuse, and often not even recognizing it as a slur, you’d want it OUT.

I see no reason why a cishet person couldn't be the term you dislike. Sexuality tends to be one of the first things targeted in genocides.

You see no reason why a cishet person couldn’t creep into the community defined by not being a cishet, then?

I'm sorry I don't understand that term. Do you mind telling me what that is?

“Truscum” is a pejorative for a trans person who defines the word “transgender” as “a person who experiences gender dysphoria (distressing evidence of mismatching sex and gender identity), or someone who used to and has transitioned”.

The opposite is “tucute” (also known as “transtrender”) deriving from “too cute to be cis”. It is someone who says anyone whosoever who says they’re trans is trans, and you are an “exclusionist” for thinking otherwise in any case. Tucutes call truscum “transphobic”, which is ironic because tucutes cheapen the word “transgender” and ruin the integrity of the trans community from within and its public relations from without.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Look up “Markdown”.

I will if this fails, thank you.

that evil is when

Yeah, that is a disagreement I have with you. Once you believe something is evil then you allow yourself the ability to treat them less than human. Believing someone as evil should be a big deal and not something that floats between some dude that T-boned you because he was on his phone, and Jeffrey Dahmer.

including non-homosexual, non-bisexual, non-transgender people

Are asexual and non-binary people not part of LGBT?

cheapen the slur...as the excuse, and often not even recognizing it as a slur

I already talked about how I feel it's use as a slur. I feel it's easier than calling people LGBTQQIP2SAA. That is too much of an acronym and I don't believe it would take in mainstream culture.

You see no reason why a cishet person couldn’t creep into the community

I have no problem with a cishet person participating. While they are not LGBT, that doesn't mean they cannot be the term you dislike. I really like telling people about the things I enjoy. If I want to talk about my experience, I don't want to be met with people throwing up in their mouths.

Truscum

I appreciate the definition. I don't think it requires dysphoria. Gender is how you interact and get interacted with by the world. I can see why wanting a different frame could be something to pursue.

Tucute

I may be old and this might just be that but I do believe some effort is required. Although, I have an inlaw who hasn't made any attempts to transition because they are still owned by their parents and would probably get killed if they found out. I can understand as a person interacting with the world with this frame as to make issues simple.

ruin the integrity of the trans community

Different cultures should be different. I don't believe there is only one trans community. Your trans community should be different than someone who wants something fundamentally different. But with something as broad as LGBT I think that net is too big for what you are looking for.