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I did listen to the book in my small group.
The writing style was very basic...it was obviously geared for all readers. The insights to me weren't world-shattering or thought-provoking.
And it did seem to be sided toward men. Which is understandable since the author is a man. A better approach probably would have been having a husband/wife duo write the book to get different perspectives.
I don't think the point of the book was as a horoscope: "These are my love languages...what are yours?" But the point was basically to communicate and respect each other.
Yeah, one thing I find annoying is "men say their #1 love language is physical touch because all they want is sex." True that women I'm sure can get physical touch easily. Chapman did make the point in a chapter to separate physical touch from sex. For me, that's the case. I'm going to wait for sex until marriage. Physical touch is my love language, and I often feel it's lacking. I love hugs...from men, women, friends, family, people I'm dating or not dating...everyone. Has nothing to do with sex, but I think a lot of men get this confused.