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Right now there is a loneliness epidemic throughout the world. More and more people aren't entering relationships. Gen Z men are having significant trouble dating while there are some economic factors in the mix. From my own view and experiences combined with what I've read most Gen Z men are lack the social and communication skills to even enter a relationship. This has and in the future will lead to extreme issues. There's already been a marked rise in hostility towards women by young men (think Andrew Tate and his ilk) that's likely born out of this frustration. I would definitely say there's been a rise in gender hostility ever since the pandemic.

Back in the 50s there was arranged marriages. All a person had to do was just show but now that's gone because it was an unequal system and I think society missed its chance to establish something much healthier and better in its wake. Now we have people that are unable to connect with each other. We just toss people blindly into the mess that is human interaction and relationships and no one knows what to do anymore. We could be have the most fulfilling relationships humans have ever had. Think of the amount of people who would of never have entered abusive relationships had there been someone around them that showed them what love exactly is.

The way we teach is so heavily focused on teaching people how to be worker drones that we forget the human part of the person. This is why a lot of people who do extreme well in school and college fare so poorly in relationships and have higher rates of depression. We are the most educated and advanced in human history, we know psychology, we can teach this shit rather than tossing people blindly into the meat grinder.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I would like to see people educated how to argue without getting personal. And how to communicate that you aren’t in a mood to argue right now, because you’re angry and wouldn’t listen.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A good start for sure would be to learn to listen and understand, not listen to answer.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Arguing is a path to understanding. We don’t argue just to create pain, it’s got a purpose to it.

[–] Zippy -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I could see that being an overall skill but likely won't result in people leaving their basements and developing some social skills.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Being able to sort out impersonal debate from a fight is a social skill

[–] Zippy -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yes but it is only one and it is rather a minor one when it comes to socializing in a group or getting you out of the basement. Unless you are the type that immediately starts a conflict with strangers in which case you might have anger issues.

That might help people in relationships mind you and that would have some value.