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‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is the gist of college student qualms with dating apps. Hook-up culture declines while young people search for genuine connection.

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[–] dinckelman 4 points 1 year ago

That's pretty much how I'd describe it too. In my own words, I basically just don't connect to people how someone normally would. Someone would first experience lust, and then build an emotional connection, once they get through the rest, but I don't really experience any romantic feelings towards a person until that connection had already been built.

Maybe choosing an attractive photo at a beach, with a drink, at the same place as the next 100 girls, would work for someone else, but for me it's pretty much an instant no. I'm looking for a person to share future experiences with, not a picture that has been purposefully selected to win a popularity contest