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The Facebook screenshot reads:

Fun fact about me: When I'm having a conversation with you, I will periodically bring up personal experiences from my own life, interspersed withing your own stories that you're telling me. I'm not doing this to try and make the conversation about me, or to take away from your own experience. Actually, what I'm attempting to do, is to try and show you that I do, in fact, understand what you're trying to tell me, and that I am giving your story my full attention.

It can really be off-putting to some people, so if I've ever done this to you during a conversation, I just wanted to make sure you know that I wasn't trying to take over your story, I was just doing my best to connect with you in the moment.

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This. I am fully aware that I do this. And I feel so guilty every time, but this. Understand this.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Talk to her and see what she would expect you to do?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I've tried several times but it is extremely difficult to get a straight answer out of her. The conversation is always one-sided. I'll ask her how I can make her happy and get silence as a response.

She's one of those people who doesn't know what they want (but surely knows what she doesn't want).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Oof, that's rough. If it wasn't going to bite you in the ass, I'd recommend she think on what she wants out of conversations. Or possibly more, given it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants in general.