Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/SuspiciousGrass8431 on 2023-06-24 09:17:44+00:00.

My sister (31F) and I (28F) are both pregnant with our first child at the same time. She is due two months before I am. While looking for baby stuff we have shared a lot of what we are looking at. She brought a cot a few months ago but hadn’t set it up because she wasn’t sure she was going to keep it. In a message she asked if I been looking at anymore baby stuff, and I said yes I had been looking at cots and sent a screenshot of the one I thought I wanted. She replied with oh the one I wanted? And I replied oh is it? I honestly hadn’t remembered. She said yes but all good. So I left it at that and then ordered the cot a couple of weeks later. There was no more communication about the cot, and I thought everything was fine. I was wrong.

A couple of weeks ago I was running errands organising things for her baby shower which is next month. She called and asked if I could come and pick her up to go shopping. I said yes and made the half an hour each way journey to go and pick her up and bring her back into town to go shopping. On the way in she said she had sent her cot back and got a new one and said she had spent $2000 on her new cot. When I replied that it was a lot of money she said she didn’t really have a choice because I brought the cot that she had wanted and yelled and screamed at me the I’m a mean unapproachable bitch over and over when I said she had opportunity to bring this up before I brought it. I ended up leaving her at the shopping centre, she got her boyfriend to pick her up. I left very upset (pregnancy hormones do not help). I felt very attacked.

I really don’t see the issue if we got the same cot anyways.

We haven’t spoken since, I don’t even know if I’m still doing her baby shower.

Am I the asshole?