this post was submitted on 28 Oct 2023
43 points (95.7% liked)

Autism

6933 readers
399 users here now

A community for respectful discussion and memes related to autism acceptance. All neurotypes are welcome.

We have created our own instance! Visit Autism Place the following community for more info.

Community:

Values

  • Acceptance
  • Openness
  • Understanding
  • Equality
  • Reciprocity
  • Mutuality
  • Love

Rules

  1. No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments e.g: racism, sexism, religious hatred, homophobia, gatekeeping, trolling.
  2. Posts must be related to autism, off-topic discussions happen in the matrix chat.
  3. Your posts must include a text body. It doesn't have to be long, it just needs to be descriptive.
  4. Do not request donations.
  5. Be respectful in discussions.
  6. Do not post misinformation.
  7. Mark NSFW content accordingly.
  8. Do not promote Autism Speaks.
  9. General Lemmy World rules.

Encouraged

  1. Open acceptance of all autism levels as a respectable neurotype.
  2. Funny memes.
  3. Respectful venting.
  4. Describe posts of pictures/memes using text in the body for our visually impaired users.
  5. Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
  6. Questions regarding autism.
  7. Questions on confusing situations.
  8. Seeking and sharing support.
  9. Engagement in our community's values.
  10. Expressing a difference of opinion without directly insulting another user.
  11. Please report questionable posts and let the mods deal with it. Chat Room
  • We have a chat room! Want to engage in dialogue? Come join us at the community's Matrix Chat.

.

Helpful Resources

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.

On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.

Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don't know which) they're not interested or they can't help they just move on, not explain that they can't help or aren't interested?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Well, to be honest, I have never started a fight but I've never backed away from one either (ok, on rare occasions and only if ending up in a hospital with something broken was a real possibility, considering the size and strength of the oponent 🤣). That being said, once you actually engage with bullies and they see that you fight back, they back off. The point of bulling is the victim to always be a victim and no harm comes the bully's way. Once the bully sees that he can get hurt, even if the chances are not that great, they back off. I think this is mostly because of 2 reasons. One, they fear actually losing and this is witnessed by others, which will make them feel like a loser in front of the others. Two, they enjoy the act of bulling, not actually doing what they say they're gonna do (beat you up)... and even if they do, they don't actually want fists thrown their way, so if you do throw them, they have to evade them or take them, which is not something they are particularly fond of, even if they say or appear to be. If they enjoy just fighting or beating up people/animals for the heck of it, they have deep seeded trauma. Stay away from them at all costs. Engage (fight) if you have to, but just to get them off your back... and don't hurt them too much, cuz they're probably vindictive as well, might hold a grudge for years and do something really bad to you in the years to come.

Regarding your mother... I really have no advice to give there... but I can tell you 1 thing... I love my child more than life itself, there isn't a thing I wouldn't do for him. Also, I accept him for who he is, not who I want him to be. If your mother doesn't want anything to do with you, so be it... she's your mother, the woman that gave life to you, ao she should always be respected. But, if she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, why would you want to persue that relationship 🤷? It seems pointless to me. Unless she's just trying to give you good advice, make some suggestions on how you could better yourself in certain situations (even if that does go against who you are, you have to do it from time to time, I do as well 🤷), but only frowns upon you for you being who you are, wthout actually listening to what you have to say or trying to help you... no, I really can't see a point in persuing that relationship or caring about what my mother thinks of me... sorry, but that's my 2 cents.