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submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/adhd

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Hi,

I am coming here seeking advice. I am 21, studying and am currently doing an internship. But it's not going well. I am struggling so much with getting disctracted and watching youtube. Even though i often do want to do someting, i often don't do anything except watch youtube. When i do actually do something it's often not what i need to do. It's getting really tiring and i just want to be able to do the shit i want and need to do. I often watch youtube to have some sound, but i can't turn it off after, it is also often the same with listening to podcasts. Often when i try to improve it only works for about a week and then i fall back into my same habbits. Do many of you struggle with this, and what do you do about it?

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[–] tdawg 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Yes. My mom's old partner would put us in the corner as a form of punishment for hours on end.

That said if you think I'm suggesting OP stares at a wall then you're missing the point. Obviously the hope is that they would A) do their hw or B) read a book. Boredom is a powerful motivator

Edit: I realize you might have meant this in the opposite direction I initially interpreted it. If that's the case then the key thing is that I originally suggested they observe how they naturally engage with the loop and adjust accordingly. No two people are the same. So any advice I give will need to be adjusted to OP's unique way of living and thinking

[–] captainlezbian 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No, what they’re saying is that that’s something that just happens sometimes with people with adhd. Not intentionally, sometimes even while we internally scream to stop. It’s basically a complete breakdown of executive functioning

[–] tdawg 1 points 1 year ago

YYeah, ur prob right. It's been long enough since I've been that burnt that I've forgotten what's like. I think in that case the best you can do is try and focus on self care and circle back around to things on your own terms

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I used to go to the library a lot to force more focus with less distractions. I never reached the level of productivity I aimed for, no matter how hard I tried. Sitting still and focusing for an hour straight? Might as well ask me to solve world peace.

[–] tdawg 3 points 1 year ago

It's okay to get distracted. Long periods of focus is like lifting weights or being fast on your feet. Some people are naturally better at it than others. And there's a whole world outside of it besides. You'll find your place :)