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What is your dark side/qualities and what do you "see" in others they are likely unconscious of? (self.asklemmy)

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[–] littlebifi 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm resentful to people who have done me wrong. I avoid those people until they apologize to me or I'm told some kind of drama from there past, which explains their behavior. My behavior hurts me more then anybody else and I'm working on changing myself.

Other people often seem like they don't acknowledge the good or bad stuff happening in another persons life. E.g. ignoring the daily strain a loved ones death leaves on somebody. They know it happened, but they expect the affected person to be fully functional.

[–] cheese_greater 1 points 1 year ago

There's always a tension that exists in really telling people how your day is when they ask, although for close genuine friends, they can almost always tell even if they dont necessarily have the updates or knowledge of the situation necessary to be in the loop at least.

A true best friend is someone you can bring up this shit with and sit with you although its fair and a truism that everyone is limited by not having infinite stamina to listen to problems/problems/problems, ya