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The “love languages” are a hoax by a Southern Baptist pastor (archive.ph)

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[–] Nobody 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Love languages have always seemed like excuses for bad behavior in relationships. You treat me well, but I have this extra essential requirement because “That’s my love language.” Honestly good gestures get minimized because you didn’t know the secret code.

My love language is being a decent human being. It’s a universal language.

[–] lmaydev 5 points 1 year ago

Valuing certain things more isn't bad behaviour.

For some people getting/giving gifts is a huge thing, while others don't care so much.

Some people like actions while some just like time together.

It's fine to value things differently. And what you're talking about is exactly what the book covers.

You value things differently and view their not feeling the same as bad behaviour.