ADHD

First of all, it gets easier. Even if nothing else changes, once she can start doing things for herself, you automatically get a bit of extra time. Once she can feed herself, you'll be able to eat breakfast at the same time, for example. It might not sound like much, but it makes a big difference.

I have to ask, what are you doing in the morning that takes over three hours? Not judging, but like the other poster said, you may be able to prep some of it the evening before and take the pressure off.

As far as breakfast and meds go, is there anything you do automatically in the morning? I tend to make myself a hot drink, so I put my meds and things next to the kettle, and I remember them because they're in front of me. Maybe doing something similar would help?

The most important thing is to try to take some of the pressure off though. Maybe put some snack bars in your coat that you wear to work, or in your desk. Put your daily meds in separate containers so that if you're rushing, you can take them with you?

My kid was quite active too, so we built a baby prison (not as bad as it sounds, honest!). We had a sort of extra long baby gate that formed a circle, and put some toys inside. This one was fairly small, so we only used it for when we had to do something that we couldn't do with a baby, like washing the dishes and cooking dinner. We also bought a paddling pool with inflatable sides, and put some thick blankets in the bottom. My kid couldn't climb out of it, so could play in it with their toys, but couldn't do anything that would hurt them. Not everyone likes the idea of things like these, but they kept my kid safe while we did things that had to get done, and it gave us the chance to relax a bit and stay sane.