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Don't follow your ex's (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep I second this. I have gone NC with all my exes. Two wanted continued contact but that's just not me and sometimes people ask me what they're up to and I can happily respond I have NFI.

The past is the past.

[–] captainlezbian 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’d be ok being friends with an ex. It’s looking one up that feels like hurting myself to hurt myself

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

In one case I found out they lied to me about why we broke up and the second she became a horrible, vindictive person after we broke up and started spreading lies and rumours about 6 month after we split. Originally both breakups were quite amicable and soured and they didn't understand that that had quite a lot to do with my decision to 100% no contact.

I don't think I'm 100% against it now that I think about it further. I just seem to have a history of dating people with an underlying hurtful streak and/or poor empathy...