this post was submitted on 05 Oct 2023
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Some people don't want to come off as really crass and aggressive. I don't understand why people get so offended by polite language. It's not a religious thing, plenty of religious people swear up a storm.
My dad was in the army, so he was no stranger to swearing. My parents weren't strict or religious when I was growing up. I just didn't like how harsh and, frankly, how stupid swears sounded, so I decided not to use them.
People like to say "you can swear on the internet", but just because you can do something doesn't mean you should do it. The people on the internet are every bit as real as people off the internet and words can cause a whole lot of hurt. Why not make the internet a more friendly and inviting place?
Does it really hurt anyone that this person edited this post to match their personality better? Why is this even a big deal?
Its not the polite language that bothers me, its when its obvious that someone is self-censoring for no reason.
I don't expect someone to use a swear word every time it fits. I do expect someone that tells me to frick myself to just say fuck because that's what they mean. Its weird.
Have you heard/read about how this isn't why some folks are doing this? I suspect part of the reason for this thread is that people don't feel like those doing this are doing so to match their personality and genuinely being more polite, but more to work around corporate social media's algorithms purportedly downplaying more "crass and aggressive" language.
It's not that they're offended by polite language or attempts to be friendly, but they're put off and made uncomfortable by what reads as performative kindness/hospitality. Like have you seen the movie Get Out? Or read/seen the movie adaptations of The Stepford Wives? For some folks these gestures, which may be genuine, can unintentionally come across like the eerily accommodating/submissive people in those stories.