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The old nature vs nurture debate. I fall more on the nature side, where the kid would have turned out shitty no matter how you raised them.
Nature is undeniable as an influence on everyone, but I think nurture is generally wildly underrated.
I'd like to go one step further and propose that the amount people are affected by nurture is part of their nature. Person A may be born with murder tendencies and grow up into a murderer no matter what, even while being raised watching Mr Rogers. While Person B may be born with murder tendencies but may only grow into a murderer if growing up in a murder enabling environment like Detroit or being filthy rich.
It’s that because most of us are wildly under-nurtured?
My parents wanted to nurture me, they just didn’t know how. Same applies to how I raised my kids. I really tried, I was just not good at it.