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I don't know where the purpose of my life is. I looked where I last saw it and it isn't there anymore. It's like losing your keychain. All I can do is hope I forgot it somewhere at home because I sure can't go outside without it. I wanna find joy in things again, and it is so difficult to get you shit together when everything feels so meaningless.

The more I look for the keys the more I fear I lost them for good. Which makes me not wanna search for them at all and just distract myself with random stuff. I think that describes my situation quite well.

Anyway I'm sad. But I hope you all are doing okay!

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

thanks a lot for your words!

Happiness is 80% a choice and its easier to make with medical assistance

it feels like it is so much labor and I am exhausted. it never really sticks, it keeps slipping away. I wish it was easier

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I would really really recommend not underestimating the importance of medical treatment. It took me 4 tries to find the right medication (turns out an NDRI, not an SSRI, did the trick) to discover that actually, "normal" people are basically happy by default?? Like instead of it being this elusive reward that I had to work hard for, it's like I can consciously hold on to my positive emotions and let go of the negative ones. Also, basic tasks that were endless nightmares before (laundry, cooking, phone calls) are now stress-free and even kind of satisfying?

I had the right tools before, like supportive friends, enough education about radical acceptance and coping skills, and a physically healthy routine, but it didn't seem to help. And that makes sense now because it turns out, it barely matters how much happy chemicals your brain makes if it's going to immediately throw them away. Not trying to tell you what to do (am neither a doctor nor a therapist) but I'm wondering if that's what's going on with you too.

[–] doyadig 1 points 1 year ago

Hi. Is NDRI the same as SNRI? Im from Sweden and it seems like that term isn’t used here. I searched for NDRI and I didn’t get any results. Only SNRI and SSRI. I’m really desperate. What is this NDRI medication you take? SSRI doesn’t seem to work for me.

[–] Reverendender 5 points 1 year ago

The right meds are absolutely key in my experience