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Hi y’all, I’ve been (slowly) doing my transition for almost 2 years now and it’s mostly good. I didn’t really have any plan in place when I started, just the vague idea of maybe transitioning. I think I’m running into this problem because of how my brain developed. I’m really bad at planning out past a year because all my life I assumed I wouldn’t make it past 21. So, is there some sort of guide on the steps of transition? Preferably a wiki sort of thing. I’ve looked a bit but nothing has caught my eye.

It’s not super important but it’d really help me figure out how to proceed. Like okay, I’m on HRT and that’s going fine, so now what? I guess I’m a bit lost.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It's up to you to sit down and write your goals. Work through how you feel about things and what bothers you. Maybe try getting into the mindset of not "transitioning", but "gender unmasking" - focus on letting your inner needs shine, rather than go through a checklist of what you "have to do".

Also if possible, the most generic advice, get more out to people (in real life!) to learn which interactions and opinions make you feel good and which you'd like to correct. Get support from the local community (and contribute back). I'm an awful introvert, so I know this can be hard, but even a bit of IRL interactions goes a long way when you're working through stuff and in doubt