Image description: 4 panel comic titled If Trans People Said the Things Cis People Tell Them.
Panel one has an androgynous individual talking to a woman. The androgynous individual, "To me, you are 100% a girl, you know?" The woman has a look of confusion and disgust and responds with, "Wow, thanks."
Panel two has the same androgynous individual speaking with a man. The androgynous individual is saying, "It's so incredibly you look just like an actual boy!" The man is rubbing the back of his head in nervous confusion and says, "Yeah, I... am one?"
Panel three has the androgynous individual speaking with someone of ambiguous gender. The androgynous individual says, "I would never have guessed you were cis! Congratulations!" The other person is looking at them with an expression of confusion and concern.
Panel four has the androgynous individual speaking to a man. The androgynous individual says, "I think you are so brave for being who you are." The man is frowning at them.
The comic is credited to @assignedmale on Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr and SophieLabelledraws on YouTube. Their merch is at assignedmale.etsy.com and Pateron is at patreon.com/sophielabelle
Is it bad that I wish someone would say "I never would have guessed you were trans" after I come out to them or drop my voice? I need validation on being stealth.
Nope. But it might get old the nth time or if you didn't do something you think should of outed you.
It's kind of the paradox of being stealth. If you are successful no one notices. So you don't get feedback that you are successful.
You do. The trans people you see in the community look right past you. For me at least, it means I'm often invisible to the people I want to be hyper visible to.
Pins, clothing, jewelry can bring that back.
Yes and no. I have died purple hair, an estrogen tattoo on my arm, a trans flag necklace, and shoes with one set of pride laces and one set of trans flag laces.
They're all really helpful after someone is already talking to me for some reason, but they're not much good for those moments where you pass someone in the wild.