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Is it wrong for 25M to date 19F? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by MTK to c/[email protected]

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So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I'm over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can't put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn't healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Eh, it's a good rule still.

[–] cyberpunk007 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

80/2=40, +7=47

Not sure if good....

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Once you reach that age you can pretty much do what you want. I think if you can pull a 47 year old at 80, you should be good to go.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

It works well up until the DiCaprio Inflection Point (ie ~30).

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure if your criticism is that a 45 year old should be considered old enough as well, or if you think that a 50 year old is not old enough to make the decision to date an 80 year old.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

If a 47 year old is gonna date someone who's 80, what grounds would you have to say that isn't ok?