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Had a first date with a really lovely girl this weekend.
We both had fun and she made sure to tell me so and spoke about catching up again in the future a few times.
I waited a day to ask if she wanted to hang out next weekend and she says that she’s super busy that weekend, sorry. No suggestion of when she might be free or anything.
Am I reading too much into it thinking maybe she’s not interested? I just took what she said at face value and went with it but part of me wonders if she’s just not interested but wants to be polite.
Any suggestions? I don’t want to come across as needy or anything like that.
Seems to me like you're giving up way too easily.
Don't do that before you decide to ask a much more direct question about your status together. There is literally nothing to lose.
"Hey, I'm not sure if you're still keen to hang out again. I'd like to, what are your thoughts?"
Edit: And just read your other comments. It's still way too early. You're overthinking it. Don't listen to the DT's resident pessimist.
OK thanks Pilk, I’ll keep that in mind as well.
I guess we just keep talking organically and if a second date happens it happens.
Alternatively I could be more direct with her say tomorrow when she’s not hungover and see what she says.
I do like the idea of being direct about it all. We’re grown ups after all.
EDIT: As fullkit and yourself have suggested I’ll just let things roll and not read into it at all for now. See where the conversation moves to next and see if she suggests anything!