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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think I'd want to test the waters first to feel fully comfortable. I don't know how though

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You just gotta risk it for the brisket. Go out somewhere dressed up as yourself and see how it goes.

It’s funny talking about this now. I’m fully transitioned and have basically put any maleness out of my mind. I’m very lucky not to ever have anyone clock me

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Alright. I will struggle to find the courage, even though I keep telling myself that I don't care what other people think.

It'll be obvious eventually anyway, so the smart thing would be to have the people who'll support me sooner rather than later.

I don't know what to tell them though, so let me overthink for a few days first. Still not 100% sure about being trans, but the new name I've tried doesn't feel wrong, so there's that.

I should probably just start with saying that being a guy is not what I want. The people who I can be comfortable with this information with will be a big help in figuring out the rest.

Did I mention overthinking yet?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don’t think you’re overthinking. This is a very big decision! You’re fundamentally changing how you present yourself to the world. You’re becoming an entirely new person built up from the pieces of who you used to be. It’s huge. Time spent thinking on this is time well spent.

You’re doing an amazing job.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That genuinely made me tear up a little

Thank you. It means a lot to me.