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I keep saying my deadname in my head, this kinda started a bit after a family gathering where I heard my deadname a ton. This was in may and sometimes I will just say my deadname in my head and it feels wrong, it also kinda makes my real name feel a little wrong, even though I know it's not and I like the name skylar

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[–] Acters 8 points 1 year ago

It's OK to have multiple names. even getting rid of old ones for new ones is fine, too. Don't try to force it. Rather, accept it as a past name because it still means quite a lot to you. Be assertive to others if they call you by a name you dislike, and tell them you would rather be called a different name.

I would suggest giving your deadname a creative send-off of sorts, and this will help associate any future moment with a happier memory of your past that you transitioned from to what you are now. It is part of acceptance and progression into a new path of life.