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Do you get anxious about attention from really inconsequential stuff? (lemmy.one)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/adhd

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Hello, I am new here.

I am undiagnosed but have been essentially told by my therapist yeah you probably have ADHD, and suggested possibly being on the spectrum too. So I thought maybe this could be a good place to explore this issue I've noticed recently.

I mean stuff like personal appearance? It's fine, nobody will say anything negative and I know that, but thinking about changing my beard style or removing it all together or I'm a little bored with some of my clothing. But thinking about doing something about it, I just know everyone will have to address it and ask the same questions or make the same comments about it and, I don't know, like feel mentally exhausted just thinking about it.

Does anyone else experience this? It feels incredibly silly and annoying.

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[–] MdRuckus 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

ADHD has a huge spectrum for how it looks. That's what's great about our community. I don't get nervous about that stuff, but other things I do. I'm quite the opposite. My mind is all over the place. I'm very compulsive and love changing my look, my clothes, constantly getting new phones and smartwatches. But, I love consistency with my job, my routines for work and home life. I don't like unscheduled last minute changes.

The way I have overcome that anxiety is to really just push myself to do things by basically pushing the intrusive thoughts to the back of my mind. I don't know if it's healthy, but I just I basically don't think about and ignore the outcome of what may happen. I wish you the best of luck. You're right, we won't judge you here.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have some of that too. My job is less routine, which is nice sometimes, but definitely the last second changes are difficult.

I guess maybe it's more of a social anxiety thing. I do find it difficult and draining to interact with even people I work with sometimes, much less strangers.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have a hard time putting myself out there… I guess I’m afraid of being judged or having my ideas or thoughts disregarded or put down.

Lemmy/Kbin have been helpful for me to converse with other people! Sometimes the risk is totally worth the reward! I’m pleased to meet you all!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Same. Rejection sensitivity sucks. That may be part of my thing.

I definitely love "anonymous" places online like this as opposed to regular social media.