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[–] [email protected] 112 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

P×dophiles are flocking to churches because they're unregulated by the government. They're becoming a safe haven for these sick fucks because they often attempt to handle conflict and scandals within their own walls. Also, due to a high need for childcare, often no background check is needed!

A "scandal" is bad for ~~business~~ attendance numbers, so they like to keep it quiet, if they can.

My family has gone to so many churches throughout the years, and at least 5 or 6 have had the sexual abuse of a child come to light within church leadership.

I am dead serious about this: KEEP YOUR KIDS OUT OF CHURCHES!!!!

EDIT: I forgot to mention that most clergy are not bound by laws that would make them mandated reporters for child abuse.

[–] [email protected] 54 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Even better, stop going to churches at all.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

I mean, yeah, that's how I deal with it.

But even some non-church-going folks with drop off their kids at "youth group" essentially for free childcare and debatable "moral development."

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Even when it does come out, church people often rush to support the perpetrators. They do the “I’ve had a beer with them and I like them so they couldn’t be a bad guy” thing that I do not understand at all about people.

[–] Urbanfox 4 points 1 year ago

This is true, they try to hide this type of activity, and if you fight it they'll take you down too. Source: personal experience.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

It's true. There will be some volunteer that has inappropriate behavior with a minor that gets kicked out then just does the same at a different church. No one tells the police because of the intense sexual shaming and stigma. This is when you're lucky enough to be somewhere where the church doesn't outright protect the abuser and force the abused out.