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How do I tell my neighbours the windows in their bathroom are not frosted enough? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by Noedel to c/[email protected]

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Neighbours recently had their home remodelled, which involved them putting new glazing in their bathroom. The glass is not frosted enough and there's a lot to see.

They are large windows too, starting at knee hight. How do I bring this up?

Bonus points if someone can tell me why this community keeps showing my subscription as pending.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bring up this issue happening with you, in casual conversation. For example: "when I moved here the house had a lot of issues, for example [...] and the glass was not frosted enough. We eventually fixed this [...]"

The idea here is that you won't be telling them directly, they're going to realise it on their own.

[–] Noedel 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I love this haha, I live in NZ and people here are very indirect and non confrontational.

I'm Dutch so quite the opposite.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I was working with a Dutch guy, he'd just flown back to Netherlands and I sent him an email that went something like:

Hi Jan,

Hope you made it back ok,

Cheers,
Dandan

He replied inline to my email and under "Hope you made it back ok" he wrote " >I do not understand why this is relevant"

[–] Noedel 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

LOL that's a bit much even by Dutch standards.

It's quite unsettling for me now when I occasionally have to call companies at home. It's nice that everything is to the point but it feels very cold.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Here in Latin America things vary quite a bit, specially in areas with heavier impact of immigration. So I guess that the folks here learn how to "gauge" how indirect you need to be, as being too overly indirect is also bound to piss some people off.