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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Wear a fanny pack/carry a non-backpack bag as a man.

It's so convenient to have a bag full of stuff on you. Like I'm out and have a headache, boom Aspirin. At dinner and got some food in your teeth, bam flosser. It's very satisfying when a situation comes up and you have the exact thing to solve a problem right there in your bag. But a backpack is too big and bulky and anything smaller becomes a purse and this looks down upon for a man to carry.

I only get the courage to wear it when on a trip where I can overly justify it. Like hiking, or a theme park or convention. I feel like if it was an everyday thing I'd have to explain it or hear about it more than I'd want to.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I see more and more men wearing fanny-pack-like crossbody bags where I am (Holland). Hopefully it will start catching on in your area!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'm in Portland, OR and I see them a ton!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

If you can pull it off, even a dress can be manly

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Get a cross body sling, One of those travel digital nomad things. The brand ones aren't cheap but it's like somewhat fashionable. Maybe that could work?