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How do I tell my neighbours the windows in their bathroom are not frosted enough? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by Noedel to c/[email protected]

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Neighbours recently had their home remodelled, which involved them putting new glazing in their bathroom. The glass is not frosted enough and there's a lot to see.

They are large windows too, starting at knee hight. How do I bring this up?

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The framing in this conversation is important. This is difficult, but making it clear you'd rather not see that is how I'd go.

I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.

No way around it, it's going to be a bit awkward, but telling them shouldn't seem like a weird thing to do. If you're polite, telling them about the issue is a kind thing to do.

Maybe a note outside their door? Could be anonymous if you don't know them well and they don't have cameras, saves both you and them the awkwardness

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.

This is a great advice. Little buffer gray zone so you don't have to directly say "hey, I can see you when you take a shit".

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I may be overthinking it, but I feel like bringing up those kinds of details unprompted is more awkward. Like you're hiding that you did see something.

Just say you can see into their bathroom and thought they should know. If they ask what you saw, or if they look absolutely mortified you can assure them you didn't see anything like that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I think it's just a white lie to make this interaction easier. It's something to fall back on. Probably both parties in that conversation actually know that something was seen but this way it's easier to move past that (and ignore it).

And yeah just saying "I can see in your bathroom" would work too but it might be a bit hard to say that if you have social anxiety (or something) so this plan is just to alleviate that stress.