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How is the division of labor going in your households? (lemm.ee)

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Got out of my last relationship for this reason (amongst other things). I was the everything person - cook, accountant, maid, landscaper, scheduler, fun planner, etc. It didn't start that way of course - just little acts of service out of love that became the expectation over time. Are things more equitable in your relationships, or are there any women who are where I was at? I'm still scratching my head wondering if I bear some of the blame for setting myself up that way and trying to get some good perspective for the next one!

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[–] Saraphim 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don’t want to talk about it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I hope you are doing ok. If you are in my old situation, know that you aren't alone.

I'm casually observing a lot of this with friends. Met a very accomplished lady recently who shifted from working in the investment banking sector into getting her licensing and a private practice to be a therapist. She worked her ass off with education and multiple part-time jobs to get her to where she's at. Shockingly, she is a mommy-wife to a guy who doesn't want to commit to marriage.

[–] Saraphim 1 points 1 year ago

I think we are seeing it everywhere. Really seeing it. Some of us are worse off than others but I know of very few equal hetero relationships, my own included.