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How to deal with bullies? (self.autism)
submitted 1 year ago by medvedev to c/autism
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I'm 13y old that was recently diagnosed with ASD. School is starting soon, they surely haven't changed nor a little bit. They're just bunch of idiots that like to express their pain and anger on others. Or just fool them for fun. Reporting them does nothing (have been doing that for almost 6 years). It's like reporting system in CP (Club Penguin), no one is even sure if it even does anything. I never do anything to them, I just stare at them or do something else. That I have blank face or sound calm dosen't mean that I'm calm. When I answer in short sentences that either means that I don't have inspiration to talk or that I hold lots of emotions in me. And, about blank face... I ALMOST ALWAYS HAVE BLANK FACE. I almost never express my emotions on my face. So, should I just throw a tantrum without caring for consequences or act tought. Does entire community of ASDers need to act like douchebags just to not be an easy target for bullying?!

P.S I've posted this in c/autism because I feel like this problem is deeply tied with my personality. -medvedev-

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sadly I can not give you good advice. I always pushed back hard but that didn't help either and gave me a bad reputation with some teachers too. The only positive thing I tell you is that in my experience the higher you go in education, the idiots who do things like that get rarer. The only thing that helped me a little was finding nice people who were also on the fringes. Once you are part of a group, bullies are more careful.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You are right, somewhy bullies became rare as I aged. Which is why I was surprised they still existed when I was in conscription. They don't grow up and stop bullying. They don't change. We were friggin adults, and they formed a cliché and entertained themselves by back-talking anyone who didn't fit. Or steal stuff from them.

So why higher education has less bullies, I don't know. I would like to imagine they aren't intelligent enough to take the education path I did, but thats probably just a revenge-fantasy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Bullying is a tactic to raise your own perceived worth by stepping on others. I think most people who have any real talent or education don't need that. Also, it is not universal, but intelligence makes introspection more likely.