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[โ€“] [email protected] 47 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I dont wanna shit on you, but the "I cant do better than you" is sweet and I used it with my BF, but the "You can't do better than me" is many times used by abusive partners as a way to diminish their self-esteem and make sure that they dont leave them, because they really think they cant do better than their current abusive partner.

I believe you said it with the best intentions, but is something that people does.

[โ€“] ZagamTheVile 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, I hear you but context is important. She's good and safe, so am I. We have 2 kids together, been together for 20 years, have ducks, a rabbit, share all expenses and income exactly 50/50 and have had each others back through the worst of other people.

[โ€“] [email protected] 31 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not shitting on you, but "we have ducks" has to be the funniest justification why the relationship isn't abusive I've seen yet.

[โ€“] ZagamTheVile 28 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[โ€“] janonymous 15 points 1 year ago

Well, you convinced me!

[โ€“] clumsyninza 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The second picture looks like it's generated by AI

[โ€“] ZagamTheVile 1 points 1 year ago

It's the red heat lamp. They gotta be kept warm for a few weeks and it makes our living room look like Kramers apartment.